EP22: Safety Addiction + Increasing Range
One of the biggest tools I have in my toolbox when working with clients who shut down their sex (or their lives, and the two really often go together) is that of starting to slowly but surely increase their range of tolerance for physical sensation.
It is true that almost everything we feel (and/or try to control) starts out as a physical feeling in the body.
Unless we are meditating all day, or have amazing interoception skills, then we may not even notice. We flip from a physical claw across our gut feeling, or a tightness in the throat for example, to an immediate solution through thought.
This might look like scanning the environment to see if there is danger you can avoid and taking an alternative route home. Or sitting at the edge in the cinema so you can run out if you get panicky. To shutting down physically whenever physical turn on starts to build. (Or even climaxing too quickly as a way to release and not hold steady with sexual sensation in the first place.)
How does this show up for you? As there will certainly be a way. Most of us have our little quirks of aversion, even if we become quite adept at hiding them.
WAYS TO GET OUT OF SAFETY ADDICTION
There is a way through all of this however - and that is called "increasing range".
And I am delighted to tell you that I have a practice for just this in this week's podcast.
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