EP15: Desire and the Descent


You will perhaps know by now that I talk A LOT about desire in my world. 

In fact, I like to say that the feminine path (or the path of Eros) is cyclical, and that the first step into it for most women is to learn and embody the concept of getting into a better relationship with their own desire. In my three month sex magic group mastermind for women for example - we start with desire as the gravitational pull into finding our inner lost treasures.

It's the portal into the work.


Believe it or not, it is quite common for women to actually get a little bit freaked out by this. 

It's surprising - because who doesn't crave pleasure?

And yet - our resistance proves to be strong. It's like female conditioning is so robust, we barely know the subconscious scripts we run that  keep us disconnected from the deeper currents of our lives.

Eros is a way back into these currents. It is like a reclaiming of the wild, more instinctual sides of our own natures. 

I like to see it as a way to help get ourselves free.

While you live your life, you are in some way an organic whole with life. But once you start the mental life, you pluck the apple. You've severed the connection between the apple and the tree: the organic connection. And if you've got nothing in your life but the mental life, then you yourself are a plucked apple, you've fallen off the tree. And then it is a logical necessity to be spiteful, just as it's a natural necessity for a plucked apple to go bad. 

DH Lawrence - Lady Chatterley's Lover

Occasionally, we might more easily be able to notice how another woman starves herself of her own life like this, even more than we notice it in ourselves.

For example - just the other day I had a guest.

She was a sweetheart. I liked her immediately.

"What would you like to drink?" I asked.

"Oh whatever" was the sweet woman's response.

"I can make you coffee or tea. Or something cold - I have a soda stream and can make you sparkling water or still. As you prefer." (I am so proud of my sodastream.)

"Oh you choose, I don't mind" she said. Sweetly again.

And something in me sinks every time....

Because there's a woman.

Who could have anything she wanted.

Who is even in the presence of someone plainly wanting to serve her like a queen.

And she cannot name the thing.

She won't let herself feel it, let alone have it.


This is exactly what the secret bad girls in my community do. (Wanna find out if you are a secret bad girl? Take my short quiz HERE).

We are desirous beings

It's good to get clarity on that. It's good to break free of our fear of the erotic pulse that lives under everything.

So that we can begin to actually live our lives.

You can find out more about stories from the edge of the desire descent in this week's podcast HERE.

I invite you to live a little more dangerously this week. And follow me right into the juice.


Some snippets for your delectation below..



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