I'm such a good lover, because I practice a lot on my own.

WOODY ALLEN.

What you put your attention on grows.

This is a pretty indisputable fact, right?

Take a moment to think about this principle in your own life. If you were to do a pleasure accounting exercise like the one posted below and actually take a granular look at where you put your attention most of the time - you might be surprised. (I know I was pretty shocked when I first had a look at mine.) Take a few minutes to complete this exercise and then, post into the FB group about what you find.

Plus, there a few principles I want you to bear in mind when it comes to deepening your experience in this course as follows:

Practice

If you can take the time out of your week - every day would be amazing. However, even just 2-3 times per week for practice will bring you results.

If this feels like it might be hard for you, you can use the Pleasure Accounting resource below to help. This sheet will get you to have an honest look at where your pleasure is being built up in your life naturally, and where it is being depleted. And if you need to cull a few things in order to make room for your pleasure practices - then this is as good an exercise as any to make space for what's important to your orgasm.

(It can be amazing how much more room we have in our lives when we cut out what we don't enjoy!)

Play

Approach all of this as an invitation to play - with your body. The word homework gets reframed as homeplay in the context of this course - and for good reason. Try to cultivate a childlike mind in all the practices. By this I mean try to allow yourself to discover what your sex has to show you as if for the very first time.

In time, play leads to virtuoso capability - it's the best way to get there. To enjoy your instrument even as you learn.

No Mistakes

Which is to say that you can't get any of this wrong. Please don't give yourself a hard time for anything your discover and interpret as unpleasant. Sexual exploration can sometimes be rife with edgy experiences - you may feel bliss, you may uncover disgust. You may feel turn on, you may only feel pain or contraction. Things may be super sensitive - or numb. Luscious and wet or dry. Plus your body will change daily too - what worked yesterday may not work tomorrow. The feminine aspects of our selves are constantly changing. Keep your beginners' mind every time you practice and understand that your body is never wrong.

Approval

Which brings us to the last principle of orgasmic play. I like to think of approval as the first pillar of feminine power - in that when we get into approval of something it almost instantaneously shifts. Resistance is definitely not your friend when it comes to homeplay sessions. But unfortunately, resistance to our own bodies - often in order to have it fit in to the mold of sexuality defined by something or someone else - is what we seem to have been trained in as women.

This is where we break those chains.

Say YES to it - whatever it is you find along the way.

THAT is possibly, the most potent instruction of all.

Pleasure Accounting

Let's find out where you are building pleasure up in your life, and where you are depleting it. Once you have knowledge - decisions can be made about what to cull. All of this will carve out some more time for you to do your homeplay.

Set Up Your Orgasmic Intentions

Intentionality is power. Let's find out what your orgasm needs from participating in this experience and get that straight for her before we begin.

The Importance of a Pleasure Practice

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